In a world dominated by Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and any number of other social media platforms, we’re used to knowing anything and everything about our favorite celebrities. Some famous stars share everything with their fans including the types of foods they eat, where they vacation, and everything in between. Because of the intense media scrutiny today’s celebs are under, however, many of Hollywood’s most famous stars have worked hard to keep their private lives and spouses out of the spotlight.
That’s where these surprising celeb husbands come in. Perhaps these little known men, who quietly stand behind their famous wives and husbands, are the secret to their successful unions. But don’t think for one minute these husbands are doormats. From a powerful attorney to an interior decorator, and even several directors and producers, here are the gorgeous (and smart!) husbands you didn’t know celebrities had. Just don’t go invading their private lives.
Peter Hermann (Mariska Hargitay)
Mariska Hargitay may be known for her gritty work on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, but few know she’s got a hot man at home: Peter Hermann. The couple, according to InStyle, met on the set of the show in 2001. Months later, after a lengthy discussion on religion, Hermann invited her to church. "I just about passed out when I saw him there," she said. "I thought, ‘That’s my husband.’"
Fast forward to 2004 and the couple tied the knot, reports People. Roughly 200 guests attended their ceremony which also including a choir that serenaded the couple with "Ain’t No Mountain High Enough." While we don’t know much about Hermann, he is in fact a respected actor with a lengthy list of acting credits, including his current hit show Younger. According to his IMBb resume, he’s also had a small recurring role on Blue Bloods, starred in Philomena opposite Judi Dench, and had a recurring role in the short-lived TV series A Gifted Man.
Hermann and Hargitay have three kids together: one biological and two adopted.
Jim Toth (Reese Witherspoon)
Reese Witherspoon loves her man, Jim Toth. While Witherspoon is known for her acting credits — including winning an Academy Award in 2006 — Toth is a well-known Hollywood agent. The pair, according to E! News, got married in 2011 and celebrated their sixth wedding anniversary in March 2017.
In the years they’ve been together, the couple has experienced many highs and lows. In 2012 they welcomed their first child together, a son, Tennessee James Toth. (Witherspoon has two older kids — Ava Phillippe and Deacon Phillippe — with her first husband, actor Ryan Phillippe.) While they don’t often publicly talk about their love or give relationship details, Witherspoon says Toth encourages her to work behind the camera. "He said, ‘You should produce movies. You read more books than anybody I know. You should just buy some of them and turn them into films,’" Witherspoon told Harper’s Bazaar. Since then, she’s taken up directing and producing in addition to acting.
Keith Lieberthal (Julianna Margulies)
Julianna Margulies is a high-profile actress with a resume that includes The Good Wife and ER. She naturally receives attention for being an A-lister, but her husband Keith Lieberthal also gets his fair share of attention due to his dashing good looks. In fact, it was his appearance that initially caught Marguiles’s attention.
"Well, it was one of those things… I feel bad because people objectify him and they’re like ‘Oh, your husband is so hot,’" the actress told Ellen Degeneres (via Entertainment Weekly). "The truth is, he is unbelievably bright and smart and went to Harvard Law."
The couple met many years ago at a dinner party. "Well, when he came over to me, I said, ‘Look, I just think you are so handsome. Are you a model or an actor and are you 12 [years old]?’" she quipped. After talking, she learned he was a Wall Street litigator for six years and is Jewish — apparently a must for her. The pair jumped the broom in 2007 and soon welcomed son Kieran.
David Burtka (Neil Patrick Harris)
Neil Patrick Harris has been a Hollywood success for years, all the way back to his days as Doogie Howser. But his partner, David Burtka, who is both an actor and chef, makes his life worth living. According to People, the couple, who married in 2014 and have fraternal twins together, celebrated their 13th anniversary in early April 2017.
"Thirteen years and one day ago, I crossed paths with the guy on the left," Harris lovingly captioned an Instagram of Burtka and son Gideon. "The adventures have never ceased. The love has never waned. The gifts are never ending (the guy on the right, e.g.) Happy anniversary @dbelicious. You’re the best."
Bart Freundlich (Julianne Moore)
Julianne Moore is an incredibly accomplished actress with tons of accolades to her name. She’s also a well-known beauty and stands out as one of a few red-heads in Hollywood. But when she’s not lighting up the silver screen, her heart is at home with her director husband Bart Freundlich, whom she met on the set of the 1997 movie The Myth Of Fingerprints.
Freundlich has directed eight episodes of Californication, two episodes of Mozart in the Jungle, and the feature film Wolves, according to IMDb. He and Moore got married in 2003 and have two children.
Thomas Sadoski (Amanda Seyfried)
Despite being A-list actors, Amanda Seyfried and husband Thomas Sadoski are very private people. Both their pregnancy and elopement were met with "surprise!" headlines from the tabloids, which fits in with their low-key style. Of their sudden marriage, Sadoski said, "We just took off into the country with an officiant and, just the two of us, and we did our thing,"
Seyfried is perhaps most known for her roles in Les Miserables, Mamma Mia, and, of course, Mean Girls. Sadoski, on the other hand, does more indie gigs and TV roles. He stars on the CBS series Life in Pieces and earned a round of applause for his work in the NBC mini series The Slap. The couple met while working together in the 2015 off-Broadway production of The Way We Get By.
Jeremiah Brent (Nate Berkus)
Sure, the world knows Nate Berkus for his stunning designs, but he’s also got a hot husband, Jeremiah Brent, who is equally gifted in decorating. Berkus and Brent tied the knot in 2014, at the New York Public Library, shortly before welcoming a daughter, Poppy. You can currently catch them on the new TLC series Nate and Jeremiah By Design.
Cash Warren (Jessica Alba)
Jessica Alba may be a star actress and owner and the Honest Company, but she’s got one irreplaceable support system at home named Cash Warren, a well-respected businessman and producer in Hollywood. The couple, who tied the knot in 2008, pulls out the stops to keep the romance alive in their world with two kids.
When Parade asked if they still go on dates after several years of marriage, Alba beamed, "Yes! Absolutely. I think you have to. I think that’s essential." And they try to have quiet down time together too. "I mean, even watching TV and making popcorn," Alba says of their favorite things to do together. "Other times having a staycation and staying at a hotel down the street. It just depends what vacation is."
Benjamin Millepied (Natalie Portman)
Natalie Portman is another star who has been in the entertainment industry since she was a child. Perhaps because of all that spotlight, she is very low key and tight-lipped when it comes to her private life. It seems, these days, she rarely gives interviews and dodges questions about her kids and certainly her husband Benjamin Millepied.
According to Vanity Fair, the pair met on the set of Portman’s 2010 film Black Swan — for which she won an Oscar. Millepied, who went on to become the director of the Paris Opera Ballet, choreographed many of the dance sequences in the ballet-driven film. Their love soon blossomed and they married in 2012. Today, they have two kids.
Nnamdi Asomugha (Kerry Washington)
If you’re wondering why Kerry Washington was sometimes wearing big coats and holding big bags on her hit television show Scandal, it’s because she was busy making babies with her gorgeous husband, Nnamdi Asomugha, whom she married in secret in 2013. They now have two kids together, a son and a daughter.
Asomugha is arguably best knowns to football fans for his uber-successful career as a cornerback, which included stints with the Oakland Raiders, Philadelphia Eagles, and San Francisco 49ers. He retired in 2013.
Darren Le Gallo (Amy Adams)
Amy Adams and her actor-artist husband, Darren Le Gallo, were together for almost 15 years before they finally tied the knot in May 2015. Why did they finally say "I do" after such a long time together?
"We always had the commitment, but now he’s stuck with me and I can really act out," Adams quipped to U.K.’s The Times, before adding, "I’m kidding. The truth is, I feel a stronger sense of family, a bigger sense of permanence, which is a nice thing for me."
The couple has one daughter, Aviana, born in 2010.
Eric Johnson (Jessica Simpson)
Vocal powerhouse Jessica Simpson’s first marriage to Nick Lachey was the basis for the MTV reality show Newlyweds, but that marriage didn’t last. Her second marriage, however, is another story.
Simpson got engaged to former NFL pro Eric Johnson in 2010 after just a few months of dating; however, they didn’t actually tie the knot until July 2014. Whatever the reason for their long engagement, the couple — who have two children together — appear to be happier than ever. In May 2017, Simpson celebrated their seven-year anniversary with a sweet post on Instagram, writing, "7 years, 2 kids and a whole lotta love later."
James Righton (Keira Knightley)
Two-time Oscar nominee Keira Knightley met British rocker James Righton at a dinner party in 2011 — and she had no idea who he was. Righton told the New York Post, "She’d never heard of us. Keira was in America when we were having our moment in the sun in the UK, so she was oblivious. But over the years, she came to loads of gigs."
Despite having no idea who Righton was at first, a relationship was kindled. The couple went public in 2011 and said "I do" in 2013 at small ceremony in Mazan, Provence. They were reportedly introduced to each other by fashion correspondent Alexa Chung, according to People.
Daniel Moder (Julia Roberts)
After a decade of tumultuous Hollywood romances, Julia Roberts finally found true love when she met cinematographer Daniel Moder on the set of The Mexican in 2000. Their love affair was equally tumultuous; Moder was reportedly still married when Roberts first took interest in him, according to reports. But whatever happened (or didn’t), it seems it was meant to be.
Roberts told Oprah, "Because of being married, I’ve met people and experienced all these little things that have nurtured my life — not so much changed it, just nurtured it in a way that’s astounding."
The couple is still happily married after saying "I do" in 2002, and have three children.
Ryan DeBolt (Sara Ramirez)
Sara Ramirez’s character Callie may have had a rocky relationship timeline on Grey’s Anatomy, but in real life she seems to be doing just fine. In 2012, she married hunk Ryan DeBolt in an "intimate" July 4th wedding. Where’s he been hiding that we haven’t seen that face? According to Daily Mail, he’s more of a behind-the-scenes guy who works as a business analyst.
Ramirez came out publicly as bisexual four years later in 2016, saying in a speech at the 40 to None Summit in Los Angeles (via Us Weekly), "Because of the intersections that exist in my own life — woman, multiracial woman, woman of color, queer, bisexual, Mexican-Irish American, immigrant and raised by families heavily rooted in Catholicism on both my Mexican and Irish sides — I am deeply invested in projects that allow our youth’s voices to be heard, and that support our youth in owning their own complex narratives so that we can show up for them in the ways they need us to."
Ramirez has since spoken multiple times about her sexuality and her marriage to DeBolt appears to be going strong.
Justin Mikita (Jesse Tyler Ferguson)
Most people know actor Jesse Tyler Ferguson as one half of the lovable (and hilarious) Modern Family couple of Cam and Mitch, but in real life he’s married to lawyer Justin Mikita.
On the day of their wedding, Mikita tweeted, "Husband. Not partner. We’ve worked hard to call each other husband… so let’s start using it." After getting engaged, the couple worked together to create Tie The Knot, a foundation dedicated to advocating for marriage equality in the US. Can you say power couple?
Christopher Jarecki (Alicia Silverstone)
Clueless is by far Alicia Silverstone’s most notable project to date, but that doesn’t mean she hasn’t been busy between then and now. For her, getting married in a beachside ceremony in 2005 was a huge turning point in her life.
On her marriage to Christopher Jalecki, lead singer of now defunct band S.T.U.N., Silverstone told Redbook Magazine, "I wasn’t attached to the idea of marriage, but something about Christopher and me — when we got married, things got more clear."
Chris Ivery (Ellen Pompeo)
Grey’s Anatomy star Ellen Pompeo may have had a difficult choice between dishy doctors on the hit medical drama, but in real life there was only one man for her. Still, it took the actress a whole decade to open up about her super-secret, low-key wedding to music producer husband Chris Ivery. Pompeo gave the honor to Martha Stewart Weddings, sharing how the ceremony was officiated by none other than then-mayor of New York City Michael Bloomberg.
The wedding took place at the height of Pompeo’s career, so it was very important to her to keep things relatively under the radar. "At that point, I was really dying for privacy. So we flew out on a redeye Thursday night. Friday morning, we woke up, went to City Hall, had the wedding really quick, and then we went to a waffle lunch after," she explained. The happy couple welcomed their third child together in December 2016.
Max Handelman (Elizabeth Banks)
Elizabeth Banks is one of the funniest women in Hollywood, with starring roles in movies as far-ranging as Zack and Miri Make a Porno and The Hunger Games series. She needed someone who could keep up with her increasingly busy schedule as her role expanded and, thankfully, Banks’ husband Max Handelman was there from the very beginning. The couple met all the way back in 1992, at college, and have been inseparable ever since.
The two moved to L.A. and tackled Hollywood as a team, marrying in 2003, and forming a strong working relationship in the intervening years to boot. They even produced the first Pitch Perfect movie together, before Banks took over directing duties on the sequel, developing the script over their own kitchen table. "We have always made decisions that kept us together as a couple. We like working together. We’re good at working together," Banks told Vanity Fair.
Adam Shulman (Anne Hathaway)
Princess Mia didn’t have too much difficulty finding her M&Ms-loving Prince Charming, but in reality things weren’t quite as simple for actress Anne Hathaway. True, she married actor and jewelry designer Adam Shulman in 2013, after four years of dating, in a ceremony Hathaway told The Telegraph was more for tradition than anything else. Prior to that, however, her relationship with boyfriend of four years Raffaello Follieri fell apart when he was exposed as a swindler and put in prison.
Things have settled down for the Oscar-winner since. She and Shulman spend most of their time in the cool environs of Brooklyn. She gushed about her deep feelings for her chilled-out partner in an interview with Elle, telling the publication, "He changed my ability to be in the world comfortably. I think the accepted narrative now is that we, as women, don’t need anybody. But I need my husband. His unique and specific love has changed me."
Ryan Piers Williams (America Ferrara)
Actress America Ferrera made a name for herself as the not-so-ugly star of Ugly Betty. Although the show saw her dowdy character mostly ignored by male suitors, in reality Ferrera had little trouble finding the right man with whom to settle down. She tied the knot with Ryan Piers Williams, in a breathtakingly beautiful ceremony, back in 2011. According to PEOPLE, starry guests for their big day included her Ugly Betty co-stars Vanessa Williams and Rebecca Romijn.
Ferrera met Williams in college, when he cast her in his student film. "We kind of connected from the get-go on that professional level and that was something that really drew us to each other," Ferrera explained to PEOPLE. She described how the two have "a shared passion for what we do and our work." The actress has worked on three movies with her husband, who also acts and writes, gushing to Huffington Post back in 2014 that working together is ideal because nobody knows her better than him.
Simon Halls (Matt Bomer)
Matt Bomer’s leading role in TV hit White Collar propelled him to stardom, but by the time he’d become big enough to be bothered with gay rumors, Bomer had already secretly settled down. He married Simon Halls, a publicist and then already his partner of ten years, in a chill New York wedding in 2011. Outlets such as the L.A. Times breathlessly rushed to cover the nuptials once the actor let the cat out of the bag at the 2012 Desert AIDS Project event in which he thanked Halls and their three children.
Bomer told Out magazine in a wide-ranging interview, "There’s a security, a validity of knowing that it’s legal. It’s hard to put into words." He also shared that he and Halls endeavor to be the best parents they can possibly be to their three children first and foremost. In that respect, the actor feels he couldn’t possibly have found a better partner.
Lance LePere (Michael Kors)
Celebrated fashion designer, former judge on Project Runway, and multimillionaire Michael Kors is all about the finer things in life. As he confessed to Women’s Wear Daily, however, his perfect day involves nothing more than spending a quiet night in with husband Lance LePere, watching TV, and chilling out.
On the couple’s 2011 wedding, Kors deadpanned, "We’re probably the only people who got married on the beach, jumped in a Jeep, went to East Hampton, had pizza at Sam’s and went to see The Help." He and LePere actually met in 1990, when the now creative director of women’s collection design for Kors’ label was just a lowly intern. Vogue notes the designer was the first high-profile fashion name to get married in a same-sex ceremony since gay marriage was legalized in New York that very same year. Clearly they couldn’t wait any longer to make it official.
Gian Luca Passi de Preposulo (Jessica Chastain)
Jessica Chastain isn’t exactly what one would call a shrinking violet, making a name for herself starring as take-no-nonsense female characters in Zero Dark Thirty, A Most Violent Year, and as the titular ball-buster in Miss Sloane.
When it came to choosing a partner to share her life with, Chastain looked to Italian nobility, settling down with fashion executive Gian Luca Passi de Preposulo who’s got some actual aristocratic blood. The two tied the knot in his home country in 2017, in a spectacular, 17th century Venetian villa owned by his family, with famous guests including Anne Hathaway and Chastain’s Zero Dark Thirty co-star Edgar Ramirez, according to PEOPLE.
Funny enough, just a few years back, Chastain told PEOPLE that marriage wasn’t a deal-breaker for her. "To me, marriage is not an important thing," she admitted. Even then, the actress and activist gushed to the publication about how fantastic her relationship was. Clearly her husband is a game-changer.
Marco Perego (Zoe Saldana)
Over the course of her lengthy and varied career, actress Zoe Saldana has battled aliens, monsters, and Britney Spears. She may be a huge, in-demand movie star, but Saldana is anything but a tell-all tabloid foil. In fact, she married long-time partner, the Italian painter and sculptor, Marco Perego in complete secret. When pressed during her cover interview for Net-A-Porter (via Huffington Post) Saldana explained that she needed someone who could keep up with her, telling the publication, "I’m fortunate to be challenged by an artist who also pushes himself."
The actress also espoused the benefits of keeping the intimate moments alive and exciting. She told E! News that the couple would never sacrifice "sexy time" no matter how tired one or both of them might be. The two share three sons, so finding time to be alone is difficult, particularly with their competing schedules. But Saldana refuses to let the spark die, especially with a husband as gorgeous as Perego.
Jared Pobre (Stacy Keibler)
Stacy Keibler is a tough cookie, but her unlucky-in-love storylines as a professional wrestler with the WWE carried over into her real life. Keibler was utilized primarily as a foil for first couple of wrestling Stephanie McMahon and Triple H. In reality, she nabbed none other than George Clooney back in 2011, only for the two to split amicably in 2013. It seems her real prince charming was waiting in the wings, however, as Keibler wed tech entrepreneur and comparably normal dude Jared Pobre in an intimate, beach ceremony in Mexico the following year.
"Marriage is the ultimate bond of love and friendship. It means putting all your faith and trust into a person that you can’t help but believe is your soul mate," she gushed to PEOPLE. "Someone who has all of your best interests at heart; someone handpicked for you, to help you grow and be the best person that you can be. Jared is all of this for me."