It’s been close to two decades since Gwyneth Paltrow gave birth to her daughter Apple, but it sounds like the memories from that day are still fresh. That could be because the actress says that she and her daughter both almost lost their lives that day — and the story behind Apple’s birth is pretty scary.
Gwyneth talked about the day she became a mother on Dax Shepard’s podcast this week.
On Monday’s episode of the Armchair Expert podcast, Gwyneth talked about the "crazy" day in 2004 when she and ex-husband Chris Martin welcomed their first child together.
"My daughter was an emergency, it was crazy, we almost died," she told Dax. "It was like not good."
While cesarean sections are common, emergency C-sections can sometimes mean that something has gone awry during the birthing process.
The procedure left Gwyneth’s body changed.
The Goop creator said that after Apple, she also had to have a C-section to deliver her son, Moses. She recalled: "Anyway, there’s a big scar across your body, and you’re like, ‘Oh wow, that didn’t used to be there.’ And it’s not that it’s bad or you want to judge it, but you’re just like, ‘Oh, my God.’"
Gwyneth and Chris welcomed their son in 2006.
It sounds like Gwyneth’s postpartum experience would’ve been a lot different if social media had been as popular back then.
It may be hard for a lot of us to imagine a life without Instagram and Facebook, but Gwyneth says she’s glad she had her children back before the social media platforms were a part of our daily lives.
"Thank God there wasn’t Instagram when I had babies because now it’s like if I see someone, ‘Oh, I just gave birth two weeks ago and I have a completely washboard stomach,’ and I’m like, ‘Wow that’s not what I [looked like],’" she said.
She’s definitely not the only mom who feels that way!
The actress doesn’t fault those whose postpartum experiences were different than hers.
If it sounds like Gwyneth is being overly critical of those whose bodies returned to their pre-pregnancy shape immediately after delivery, that’s not her intention. Instead, she wants us to celebrate all postpartum figures, not just the ones that society pushes on us.
"And like great, more power to the lady with the washboard [abs], but that is totally the exception," she added. "And then now we’re being fed all of these other images of what we’re supposed to look like all the time — babies, no babies, whatever."
Gwyneth hopes we can all be better cheerleaders for one another.
The actress pointed out that new mothers are facing a lot, sometimes even from each other, and she hopes that we can start to support one another a little bit more. "I feel like we also have this weird thing around … it’s past perfectionism … it’s like I can do this gargantuan task that’s superhuman and why," she asked after talking about the great divide between formula and breast milk. "For what?"
We love that the Goop creator is speaking out about her struggles with childbirth and asking more women to support one another — and that she and Apple both made it out of that operating room alive and healthy.