How to stay motivated when you just don’t want to do it anymore is a question we’ve thought about at some point in our lives.
The secret to accomplishment is to avoid the classic mistake of waiting until you feel motivated before taking action. Motivation is elusive, but here are three realistic ways to stay motivated when you just don’t feel like it.
We’re all busy moms trying to find that balance and a little motivation can go a long way when setting new goals and reaching new heights in life.
Feeling Motivated vs Being Consistent
Sometimes what keeps us motivated is the rewards that we await on our journey. What happens when the rewards aren’t as close as we’d hoped and we need to find that motivation to keep going without that instant reward.
Think about a time when you had an idea and were so excited about it! It made total sense and everything was so clear in your mind. You put together a plan and thought…”oh yes, this is it!” Did that feeling last? Are you still as pumped as you were when you thought of your idea or plan?
Once you set your goals and started on your way, you might find that your motivation starts to disappear.
Being consistent and implementing a habit is how you truly get habitthe results you want. We can’t just depend on always being motivated to keep going. Yes, motivation is great when you have momentum going, but what happens when the momentum ends?
This is where you rely on your habits and the effort to be consistent. Create a schedule, and implement a routine that will help you be consistent.
Focusing on consistency to keep up the encouragement to reach our set goals is how to stay on track towards your long-term goals until that next boost of motivation kicks in.
What to do When you Lose Your Motivation
It’s so easy to let our motivation fade. We live in a world of 9-5, Monday to Friday. We have been raised to believe that all this is “normal,” so when we try to break that mold, things get in our way, bringing our motivation down.
We start to question what we’re doing. People don’t get it and judge you or don’t show support. Maybe your family and friends question you or ignore what you’re trying to do. Maybe you got rejected from something once or twice, or you’ve lost count so many times.
No matter what the reason is for you to be lacking motivation, there are things you can do to help keep you on track.
10 Tips to Stay Motivated When you Just Don’t Want to Keep Going
Try to implement as many of these tips as you can when you’re feeling unmotivated. Better yet, use these tips as soon as you set goals so that you’re prepared when motivation fails you.
Remember Why You’re Doing it
Why is this a goal for you? Why do you do what you’re doing? Coming back to the reason you set this goal in the first place is a great motivator to keep you going and inspired.
Are you doing this for your kids? Is it for a better life? Whatever your reasoning is, revisiting your why will help you keep going.
What you say to yourself is what you believe. Positive self-talk is the first step to staying motivated. Tell yourself you can do it, talk to yourself as if you’ve already reached your goals. ( this is so damn powerful) Think about what you would say, what would you wear, how does your daily schedule looks like when you reach your goals?
Be kind to yourself; pump yourself up. Eliminate negative thoughts and only focus on the good and the goals in your life. Mental health is very real and it deserves attention all the time.
Focus on your self-talk, meditate, journal; these things can help you with anxiety, depression, and so much more.
Implement a New Habit
New goals mean new habits. What’s a new habit that you can add to your schedule that will help you reach your goal? Add this new habit to your day and make it part of your routine so when motivation fails you, your new habit will save you.
If there isn’t a new habit that you can add to your schedule that directly helps you reach your goal and a daily habit that will benefit your health. Work out, go to the gym and move your body for 20 minutes each day. Increase your water intake.
When you add a new habit you’re less likely to come up with excuses because you are used to doing it and it comes naturally to you.
Set Realistic Goals
Setting goals helps you implement a strategy to reach those goals. Goal planning is a great way to see your plan unfold. Goal setting helps you eliminate distractions and keeps you ahead of the game and looking at tomorrow.
Create a Vision Board
Creating a vision board or dream board will help you with visualization. A visualization is a great tool for manifesting and creating a goal plan for your goals. Vision boards can be put on your phone, around your workplace, by your nightstand, and laptop screen saver.
Place your vision board somewhere where you’ll see it daily, so it helps keep your motivation high.
Go Easy On Yourself
Give yourself grace, sometimes it’s ok to take a day off, it’s ok if you lack motivation. Grab a good motivating self-help book, and take some time to relax. What’s important is that you get back on schedule once you’ve taken time to unwind.
Don’t Overschedule Yourself
Often we add too much to our to-do lists and we feel overwhelmed and a lack motivation. Schedule in some time to wind down, some time for yourself so that you don’t burn yourself out. Taking breaks and making time for self-care is a key part to success.
The times I take breaks and focus on self-care are the times that I come up with new ideas and feel motivated to come back to the task at hand.
Document Your Achievements
Grab a journal and write down your journey and the achievements and milestones you’ve hit. It’s so amazing to come back and revisit your journal pages to see just how far you’ve come. It’s a great motivator and I promise you, you will keep growing and you will have lots to come back to.
Write out what’s going on in your life at the time and where you are in your journey. Journaling doesn’t have to be hard or complicated. Just write about what’s going on in your life and what you want to achieve.
If possible ask for help or delegate some tasks to someone else. It’s ok to ask for help and it’s ok to hire out a portion that maybe isn’t our expertise. You can save time this way and help avoid burnout by doing it all yourself.
Let’s Talk About Smart Goals
You might have heard of this before. Setting smart goals is a way to set goals that you can achieve and that you can track and set a plan for.
S- Specific – be specific and write out every detail.
M- Measurable – Can you allot smaller goals so you can track where you are?
A – Achievable – Is this goal achievable for you? (can you set steps to reach it)
R- Realistic – Is this goal realistic right now in your life? (if not break it down into a smaller goal)
T – Time-based – Track and allocate time to your goals.
When it’s Just Too Hard
Yes, it will be hard sometimes. What the difference is between the people who succeed and the people who fail? They never stopped trying.
Don’t give up when it gets hard. If you truly believe in yourself and you can see yourself living the life you want to keep going.
More Tips to Stay Motivated
Read a Self Help Book
Keep educating yourself. Read up on others who have already accomplished what you want. See what works for them. Reach out to them. Ask them what helped them. If they’ve read any books that motivated them. For me, it’s hands-down The Secret.
Although I’ve read a lot of other great books since then this one got me into self-help and open to changing and wanting to better myself.
Surround Yourself with Like-Minded People
Today with the power of social media we have amazing access to people who think like us and want what we want. Feed off these people. Engage with them. Share your ideas with them. Together we can all win!
Get In Tune With Your Inner Self
Call it whatever you want. God, Jesus, the Universe, your subconscious, whatever you believe in getting in tune with it.
Meditate, do yoga, pray, and focus on your thoughts. Take a few minutes each day to chill, get quiet, listen and let your thoughts and the universe guide you. It will guide you.
Take a few minutes of quiet each day and also, do something for yourself. Exercise, read, go out with a friend. Keep your mental state happy.
Don’t Give Up ( yes let’s talk about it again)
Whatever you find helps you stay motivated to go back to it again and again! I have to do this all the time. If I find myself losing my focus, I go read a self-help book, or I go talk to my husband (who is my biggest supporter) and go find someone who thinks as you do, and shares your goals. To mediate or read, have a bath and think.