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Much of Tom Cruise’s private life is shielded by his status as a high-ranking Scientologist, but fans know that he has been married a total of three times and is the father of three children. His two eldest, Isabella and Connor, were adopted by him and his then-wife, Nicole Kidman, during the course of their decade-long marriage. The couple, who met on the set of "Days of Thunder," was married shortly after the movie came out in 1990 and began to build their family (per StyleCaster). Kidman and Cruise raised the children together until their divorce in 2001.
Cruise, who has dated several high-profile women — including actress Penélope Cruz and pop star Cher — would eventually date "Dawson’s Creek" star Katie Holmes and share his rabid enthusiasm for her on "The Oprah Winfrey Show." The star famously jumped up and down on the sofa next to Winfrey in an ecstatic display that was destined to be endlessly parodied. Finally settling next to Winfrey, he declared, "I’m in love. I’m in love and it’s one of those things where it’s like, you know, you wanna be cool. I was like, ‘Yeah, I like her, you know. She’s cool.’ That’s not me. That’s not how I feel." TomKat, as they were referred to by the media, married in 2006 and had daughter Suri together before Holmes reportedly blindsided Cruise with divorce proceedings in 2012. The actor’s relationships with all of his children are complicated, to say the least.
Bella is an artist who sells her work online
Isabella Jane Cruise — or Bella Kidman Cruise, as she is currently known — was born on Dec. 22, 1992 in Miami, Florida. The Daily Mail reported that she was the third child of a fellow Scientologist who was married with two children but unable to support another. After making a connection with the superstar couple through the church, Bella was adopted by Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman, who would divorce by the time she was 8 years old.
In a 1999 interview, Cruise talked about what his children might do in the future. "I don’t know if Bella will be an actress. Right now, she says she wants to be a bear when she grows up. Connor wants to be a pilot, and I’ve been taking him up with me in my plane since his second birthday" (via the Daily Mail).
Both children have largely stayed out of the limelight, particularly since becoming adults. Bella, who is nearly 30 years old as of this writing, is an artist who has an Instagram account dedicated primarily to her creative pursuits. Recently, she made a rare public appearance hosted by rocker Courtney Love to celebrate 30 years since the release of Hole’s album, "Pretty On The Inside." Bella was photographed next to a piece of her own artwork that was on display at the event. On her website, she sells tote bags, T-shirts, pins, and prints of her original work.
Bella lives a modest lifestyle in England with her husband
"She’s very mysterious. I don’t know why she’s chosen Croydon, poor child," is how one of her neighbors characterized the very private life of Bella Kidman Cruise since she moved to the U.K. city in 2017 (per the Mirror UK). Despite having parents who are worth hundreds of millions of dollars, Kidman Cruise lives a quiet and unassuming life (reportedly without their financial support) in the London suburb with her husband, Max Parker, an IT consultant. "Bella lives just outside London. You know, she really feels more English. We lived there for ‘Eyes Wide Shut,’ ‘Mission Impossible,’ and ‘The Portrait of a Lady,’" Nicole Kidman told Vanity Fair in 2019. "They both had English accents when they were little."
Kidman Cruise and Parker married in September 2015 in a ceremony that wasn’t attended by the groom’s or the bride’s parents. "We didn’t go, but we knew all about it. We stayed away; we didn’t want the media circus," Parker’s mother told the Daily Mail when asked why she and her husband weren’t present at the event. As for the bride’s mother, who was in London at the time of the nuptials, Kidman Cruise told the outlet that their relationship was fine despite her absence. Tom Cruise’s no-show was blamed on his work schedule.
Parker, who takes public transportation to work, said shortly after their marriage, "I’m still a regular guy." Regarding her husband, Kidman Cruise said, "I’m very lucky."
Bella reportedly has a tumultuous relationship with her mom
Despite Bella Kidman Cruise’s recent inclusion of her mother’s last name into her own name, and her recently liking some of her mom’s Instagram posts, the status of their relationship is still largely a mystery. Shortly after her marriage to Max Parker, Kidman Cruise told the Daily Mail, "Of course [we talk], they’re my parents. … Anyone who says otherwise is full of s**t." Life & Style also reported that the rift between the two was on the mend as of 2018, when a source told them, "Nicole is thrilled that Bella has paid tribute to her by naming her clothing line BKC. She’s supportive of Bella’s career move and really excited for her!"
RadarOnline, however, reported as recently as 2019 that Kidman’s relationships with her eldest children suffered when they chose to follow their father into Scientology. "They have made choices to be Scientologists. It’s our job as a parent to always offer unconditional love," said the Oscar-winning actress. In her book, "Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology," actress and former Scientologist Leah Remini describes an interaction that occurred in 2006 between her and Kidman Cruise after Tom Cruise’s marriage to Katie Holmes. Remini says she asked Kidman Cruise if she had seen her mother lately and was told that, "Our mother is a f*****g SP," which in Scientology speak means "suppressive person," someone the church demands be cut from the member’s life (per Vogue).
Bella and Connor are still dedicated Scientologists and are close with their dad
In 2010, Nicole Kidman spoke about her eldest children to Hello! Magazine (via Vogue), saying "they live with Tom, which was their choice. I’d love them to live with us, but what can you do?" With their father as the custodial parent, both children deepened their ties to his controversial religion and are active members of the church.
The Underground Bunker, which reports regularly on Scientology’s inner workings, published a 2019 email featuring Bella Kidman Cruise’s own words. She said, in part, "We all need to do this. It’s hard work. It’s a lot of effort. It’s a few meltdowns and running to the bathroom to have a mini episode, but it is worth everything because you will get through. This is a gift to yourself and so many others." According to a former member, the email likely indicates that Kidman Cruise is now a qualified auditor in the organization. According to the Scientology website, the goal of auditing is to "restore beingness and ability."
"Like Tom, they’ve become Scientology royalty," a source recently told OK! Magazine of the two children. Connor Cruise also lives a very private life and has reportedly been punished by the organization in the past for partaking in forbidden activities, like drinking and vaping. Currently, he resides in Clearwater, Florida, home of the church’s global headquarters. According to a former member, he is being groomed to become a "perfect Scientologist" (per RadarOnline).
Connor tried his hand at acting and being a DJ
Young Connor Cruise pursued a few different career paths before settling into his current culinary-related interests (per Hollywood Life). As a child, he acted in a couple of films, including "Seven Pounds," which starred Will Smith, and the 2012 remake of "Red Dawn." He also honed and demonstrated his DJ skills at various events over the next several years, including appearances at the Electric Festival in Aruba, where he can be seen performing in front of a huge audience. As one insider put it, "Spinning records made him feel like part of the crowd without giving away too much of himself, but now his focus is on food" (per OK! Magazine).
During his stint as a DJ, Cruise also performed at events like Electric Adventure Beach Weekend in New Jersey, a Verse Us event in Miami, and international gigs in Australia, Panama, and the Dominican Republic. He has regularly promoted his upcoming appearances on his Instagram account, but recent posts seem to indicate that his interests have shifted.
Connor’s romantic life is a mystery
Though much of Connor Cruise’s romantic life remains steeped in mystery, he reportedly dated a woman named Phylicia Bugna in 2017, who was billed as his first serious girlfriend (per Woman’s Day). A source told the outlet at the time, "Tom and Nicole aren’t thrilled about Phylicia’s sexy pics on social media or her patchy driving record, but they trust Connor’s judgment. Despite his club-hopping and smoking habit, he has a good head on his shoulders." The pair was said to have shared a mutual love of fishing and enjoyed several dates that incorporated the activity.
Since then, it has been speculated that Cruise married a woman by the name of Sylvia Zanchi in 2019. Zanchi, whose presence on the internet and social media is virtually nonexistent, is said to be a second-generation Scientologist who moved from Bergamo, Italy to Florida, where she met Connor. According to Magzter.com, the couple was seen together quite often at the church-owned Sandcastle Hotel, where Connor lived at one point. One local resident even reported having seen an engagement ring on Zanchi’s finger.
Connor is passionate about deep-sea fishing
Though Connor Cruise reportedly still has a passion for music, his Instagram feed is currently focused on his love of deep-sea fishing. "Connor lives in Clearwater, which is the church’s main hub. He still DJs, but he has really become a big fishing guy. He’s content with living a quieter life," a source recently revealed to Page Six.
Indeed, a scroll through Cruise’s grid shows him posing with a huge variety of deep-sea catches, including a grouper, a yellowfin, and an amberjack, to name just a few. Recently, he posted about enjoying a birthday trip to Costa Rica, where he did some fishing with friends and marked the occasion by holding up a huge yellowfin tuna (via "Today"). His posts also indicate that he participates in various fishing competitions. Cruise receives a lot of flak in the comments for his chosen hobby, but one recent post highlights his team’s performance and its subsequent donation of 300 pounds of fresh fish to an organization that works to combat food insecurity.
Tom Cruise’s son has become a food influencer
Connor Cruise has recently expanded his social media presence to showcase his love of all things meat-related. The aspiring food influencer announced on his original Instagram account that he was launching a second account dedicated to his love of grilling. "After many friends telling me, I have finally decided to start a food IG @connorsmeatshack with my bestie @kimj526. Give it a follow if you like backyard steaks, bourbon, chicken, or really whatever we are feeling like that day," he posted.
Cruise began posting on @connorsmeatshack in 2021. The content consists largely of close-ups and short videos of him in what appears to be a backyard location cooking on a Traeger pellet grill, a black charcoal Weber grill, and a large black griddle (per Hollywood Life). One video shows Cruise cooking a ribeye steak over charcoal with a caption that says, "Internal temp is dealers [sic] choice, but we aim for 120-122 post rest! (Don’t you DARE say well done!)."
Suri Cruise is estranged from her father
Tom Cruise married Katie Holmes in November 2006 after what appeared to be a whirlwind romance. Suri Cruise, who was born in April of that same year, attended her parents’ wedding along with her siblings, Bella Kidman Cruise and Connor Cruise. Of his biological daughter’s birth, Cruise said to Deborah Roberts on "20/20" that "it was everything that we wanted it to be … it was spiritual. It was powerful. It was indescribable. What words can you use? It’s still something that I’m processing and keep reliving" (per Sportskeeda.com).
Like Cruise’s two prior marriages, however, this one would fail as well, when Holmes reportedly blindsided him with her plan to divorce him in order to protect their daughter from Scientology (per Yahoo!). Though Cruise denied that his daughter needed such protection, he hasn’t been photographed with her since they went to Disneyland together a decade ago. An insider recently told Hollywood Life that "[he] thinks about her all the time … Tom never intended to be estranged from his daughter when he decided to have a family with Katie, and looks forward to repairing the relationship one day." A source told Us Magazine in 2018 that Cruise could see Suri, as he was given visitation rights for up to 10 days a month, but that "he chooses not to because she is not a Scientologist."
Suri seems to be following in her parents’ footsteps
By all accounts, Suri Cruise has led a fairly insulated life since her parents’ split. That said, she seems to be brimming with talent — at least when it comes to singing. Mom Katie Holmes recently tapped her teenage daughter to sing "Blue Moon" for the soundtrack of her film, "Alone Together," which she wrote, directed, and stars in. Cruise’s version of the classic song plays over the opening credits and is clear evidence that she has some pipes.
"I always want the highest level of talent," Holmes told Yahoo! Entertainment (via Sportskeeda). "So I asked her! She’s very, very talented. She said she would do it and she recorded it, and I let her do her thing. That’s the way I direct in general: It’s like, ‘This is what I think we all want — go do your thing.’"
Cruise also lent her vocal stylings to another film helmed by Holmes called "Rare Objects," which will be released in December 2022. It remains to be seen whether Cruise will follow her parents into acting, but if her rendition of the Rodgers and Hart ballad is any indication of her talent, fans won’t be surprised if she excels there as well. Until then, Holmes says, "She’s a 16-year-old kid doing high school" (per ABC News).
Suri has always been a fashionista
"My biggest goal has always been to nurture her into her individuality, to make sure she is 100% herself and strong, confident, and able," Katie Holmes told InStyle in 2020 (per Style) of her daughter, Suri Cruise. "She came out very strong — she’s always been a strong personality." Already considered a style icon, Cruise has inspired several fan accounts dedicated to her fashion choices. In 2013, Us Magazine credited the then 6-year-old for influencing several looks worn by none other than Catherine, Princess of Wales.
As a child, Cruise was known to sport fancy dresses with full skirts in bold colors and patterns. She was often seen wearing headbands or bows and carrying accessories ranging from purses to stuffed animals to dolls. The value of her wardrobe at that time (per SheKnows) was a staggering $3.2 million. As she became a tween, Hola! pointed out that she had adopted a version of her mom’s style. Having recently turned 16, the teenager is often seen on the streets of New York rocking everything from a strapless sundress and vintage bag to jeans and a T-shirt.
Suri used to have relationships with her siblings
While Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ marriage was still intact, Tom Cruise’s three children were occasionally seen together at events with their father and Holmes. Even just prior to their split in 2012, Suri and her half-brother Connor were photographed together in Baton Rouge, Louisiana as their father prepared to shoot his film, "Oblivion." That outing, however, appears to be one of the last times that Suri spent with either of her elder siblings.
Despite the fact that there is no real evidence to support an ongoing relationship between the sisters, an Australian tabloid called "New Idea" recently reported that Suri desperately wished to reunite with Bella Cruise Kidman (via Mickey.com). They quoted a source as saying, "Suri talks endlessly about wanting to move to London when she’s 18. Katie suspects that while Suri would never admit this for fear of hurting her, she actually wants to go over there to reunite with Bella. … It makes sense that Suri is curious to get to know Bella again. Katie would never stop her. She doesn’t have anything against Bella."
Suri’s life is very different without the influence of Scientology
The early years of Suri Cruise’s life included being photographed regularly by the paparazzi whenever she was out with her famous parents, but that all changed after her mom, Katie Holmes, divorced her father, Tom Cruise, and they went to live a more private life in New York (per Style).
Apparently alarmed at what Scientology had in store for her daughter as she grew older, Holmes sprung the divorce on Cruise. The two were said to be at odds over Suri’s imminent attendance at the New Village Leadership Academy, which was founded by Will and Jada Pinkett Smith (per the Independent). The school, which claimed to be secular, was, according to ex-teachers, exactly the opposite. "There’s no question about it, the New Village Leadership Academy was a Scientology school," said Dr. Mariappan Jawaharlal, who taught there from 2008 to 2010 (per The U.S. Sun).
Since their move to New York, it has been reported that Holmes enrolled her daughter in Avenues The World School, where she wears a school uniform and is afforded no special treatment despite her family’s status. According to E! News, the school offers a well-rounded curriculum that includes language immersion and courses in humanities, literacy, math, sciences, arts, and physical education.