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It Looks Like Dating in 2022 Will Be All About Mental Health & Self-Care

It’s no secret that the last two years have upended a lot of our everyday lives, but some of the changes have been more subtle and less obvious than others. Obviously, a dangerous and highly transmissible pathogen was always destined to throw off our love lives, but who could have predicted that it would fundamentally transform the way we approach dating and romance?

A new study from Hinge, entitled "The Biggest Dating Deal Breaker in 2022," found that an overwhelming number of daters now consider mental health – their own and their potential partner’s – a top priority. In the past, the subject was a massive taboo, something you might be ashamed to open up to a spouse about, but that stigma seems to be fading, fast. Consider some of the findings:

  • 91% of Hinge singles would prefer to date someone who goes to therapy — and you’re more likely to get a second date if you mention going to therapy on a first date.
  • 89% of Hinge users say they are more likely to go on a second date with someone who mentioned on the first date that they go to therapy, yet only 8% feel comfortable bringing up therapy on the first date.
  • 97% of Hinge would prefer to date someone who actively takes care of their mental health and two-thirds are open to going to couples therapy/counseling one day.

If any good came out of the last two years, it’s this renewed focus on our mental well-being, and the importance of taking proactive steps to address our problems rather than sweep them under the metaphorical rug. And it turns out that, as we came to value mental health in ourselves, we also started to look for that same appreciation in our potential romantic partners. After all, it does you no good to work on your own problems if you keep dating people who bring their own psychological issues into your life.

It doesn’t end there. It turns out that daters have also identified a common culprit in their battle against mental health issues like anxiety, insecurity and FOMO: social media. In fact, it’s now decisively a turn-off when a potential romantic partner appears to spend too much time on Instagram, Snapchat or TikTok. Here are some of their findings:

  • 90% of Hinge users are trying to spend less time on social media — and want their dates to limit usage too.
  • 78% of Hinge users say it’s a red flag when someone is too into Instagram. The top reasons users consider it a red flag to be too into Instagram are because it’s a sign that they may be too self-absorbed and it’s a sign of insecurity.
  • 82% of Hinge users say it’s a red flag when someone is too into Snapchat. The top reasons users consider it a red flag to be too into Snapchat are because it creates more opportunities for flirting and cheating and it’s a sign they may be self-absorbed

How can you implement this info to get the most out of your 2022 dating life? Put down the smartphone, limit your time on Facebook and Instagram, and start taking your mental health as seriously as you take your physical health. A good, strong, healthy body is great, but having self-confidence, self-awareness and a grip on your emotions will have a much bigger impact on your love life.

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